There are thousands of books, e-books, magazine articles, blog posts, etc. on female modesty. While dressing modestly is no guarantee that a guy won't try to put a girl into a compromising position, a girl is a lot less likely to be harassed or pressured into sex if she wears ladylike attire (and covers up her breasts). That being said, women are not the only ones who need to be careful about what they do around the opposite gender. Very often, men do inappropriate things which drive women insane sexually. This is because there is a little known concept called "male cleavage."
Male cleavage is not a guy walking around showing off his package (something that girls don't particularly care for). Girls are not turned on by sight nearly as much as they are turned on by SUBTLE touch and relationship.
In other words, male cleavage is EMOTIONAL and RELATIONAL.
This is why players say "Listening gets you laid." Because women feed off of emotional intimacy, IT'S TRUE!
A guy that spends a lot of time alone with a girl, letting her confide her darkest secrets and deepest dreams to him night after night, is guilty of male cleavage. A guy may not realize it, but when he lets a girl constantly do that, it is equivalent to a stacked college babe wearing a low-cut tanktop and bending over in front of him. What's even more tempting for girls is when guys let them "snuggle in" and cuddle as the confiding occurs. When a guy does this, it's like that same stacked college babe letting him stick his hands up her shirt to "climb the twin peaks." And a guy flirting with a girl on top of the confiding/cuddling is the equivalent of that stacked college babe removing her shirt to give a guy an eyeful of "the twin peaks."
And if a girl who is just a "friend" is tempted by things like this, just imagine how the girl who that guy has been dating/courting for six months will react?
(Hint: It involves a lot more curiosity about that guy's "package"...)
Marty, the male virgin I know, didn't realize this when he started making female friends late in high school. He basically became a good listener to be nice and didn't think much about hanging out alone with girls, engaging in friendly banter, "innocent" touches on the arm and shoulder, letting them sit on his lap (yeah, Marty was kinda dense), etc. However, after several years, he started noticing a major trend.
WHENEVER HE DID THIS, HIS FEMALE FRIENDS WOULD START HITTING ON HIM!
The message he was trying to send with his behavior was, "Hey, I'm a nice guy and got your back if you need it."
The message his female friends got was, "Hey, I'm boyfriend material! Any takers?!"
Not to mention that Marty figured out what guys call "friendly banter" is what girls call FLIRTING!
Look, I'm not saying that guys shouldn't interact with girls at all. That would be like a guy putting on an emotional burka, which really isn't necessary. Besides, if a guy is to experience "The Sexual Force Unleashed" and "Romantic World Peace" within marriage, he actually has to get married first, and that requires a certain amount of talking.
Now, being "emotionally modest" is no guarantee that a guy won't run into girls who try to lure him into a compromising position. It just means that he will run into them less and encounter the good girls who are marriage material more. After all, real ladies like a mystery, too.
Guys who want to be sexually pure before marriage will increase their chances of doing so if:
1) They only hang out with girls during group activities (i.e. Pizza and Movie night)
2) They ease up on the "friendly banter"
3) They set clear boundaries on touching (i.e. no late-night "cuddle counseling sessions")
4) They steer a girl to discuss really personal topics (i.e. boyfriend/husband issues) to another girl
In other words, the guy should basically treat girls like they're his sisters. If he doesn't do anything that he wouldn't do around his sister, then the emotional modesty will take care of itself.
