For centuries, sailors used the stars of the night sky to guide them to safe harbors as they traveled through the darkness. The most important of these is Polaris, the North Star. Polaris is not only the brightest star that appears at night: it's also the only one which does not move. Those who wait until marriage for their first sexual encounter (provided that their marriage is Christ-centered and between one man and one woman) will be as the sun, the star which gives life to the creatures of the earth. For those who have failed, becoming the sun is an option that is sadly no longer open to them. However, through repentance, faith, and love, they can still become Polaris, the North Star, through the only one who can bring their sexuality back to life: Jesus Christ.
As those of you who have had premarital sex already know, there's no returning to Eden. Once you lose your V-card, it's gone. Nothing that you do can get it back. However, thanks to what Christ did for us on the cross, you can enter the New Jerusalem, the holy city which is the final paradise for all who believe in Him. If you repent of your sin and give your life to Christ, He will heal and restore your whole being, including your sexuality. Even though He may not make all of your problems go away (i.e. you will probably still have to deal with baby momma drama, deadbeat dads, or medical bills related to what you did), He will give you "World Peace Of The Soul" and "The Spiritual Force Unleashed" through eternal fusion with Him, transforming you into a resurrected virgin. Out of His mercy, He may still allow you to experience "The Sexual Force Unleashed" and "Romantic World Peace" within a Christ-centered marriage. I even read about a former porn star who became born-again and was miraculously cured of an STD that she had contracted, although this is extremely rare. Now, depending on your particular circumstance, getting another chance at "The Sexual Force Unleashed" and "Romantic World Peace" is not guaranteed. However, through Christ, all things are possible. At the very least, if you let Him, He will transform you into a human "North Star" who will guide the lost sailors (i.e. unbelievers) of the world into the safe harbor of His Salvation through your testimony.
On a side note, I want to make it clear that you are ONLY responsible for sexual encounters that you consented to. If someone (be they male or female) forced sex onto you, assaulted you while you were drunk, or molested you when you were a defenseless child, you are not to blame for the encounter. If that has happened, I strongly urge you to allow Christ to heal you through a saving relationship with Him, godly therapy, and a church small group which is SAFE, OPEN and RESPECTS CONFIDENTIALITY. Contrary to popular belief, these do exist. Just be aware that you may have to look harder for support if you are a male victim.
For those of you who have consented to forbidden sex (which is any sex before or outside of a marriage between one man and one woman), for whatever reason, then you can only experience a resurrected sexuality if you take responsibility for your participation in that encounter. It takes two to tango, especially if the tango happens to be "horizontal" and "clothing optional." If you accept responsibility for what you did, repent, and give your sexuality and life over to Christ, then He can truly transform you into Polaris, the brightest star in the night sky.
John 11: 25 "Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die;" (NIV)
