How do you keep from being part of the one night stand "highlight reel" of a player who is a KO artist? How do you keep a playeress from tapping you out and making you look stupid in front of your friends, family, coworkers and, dare I say, congregation? Fortunately, the basic tactic is the same for both of them: stay out of their range. In other words, DON'T HANG OUT ALONE WITH THEM.
Going off alone with a player or playeress is as stupid as dropping your hands in front of Mike Tyson or going to the ground with Royce Gracie. First off, like a certain boxer whose name rhymes with "Dayweather", these people tend to fight overmatched opponents. In other words, if they target you, they will probably be:
1) A lot older than you
2) A lot smarter than you
3) A lot richer than you
4) A lot hotter than you
5) A lot more popular than you
Secondly, there aren't any referees or state commission officials to make sure that they don't cheat by, for example, getting you rip-roaring drunk (think of this as the seducer's version of using performance enhancing drugs). In other words, players and playeresses will do everything they can to rig the game so that you will lose. So shut down their game plan and DON'T PLAY!!!
This is a very simple and effective tactic, but it isn't easy. These people have all sorts of tricks to lure you into their range. Such as a college stud inviting you and your friends to a party before using their wing men to isolate you by luring your bffs away. Or foxy freshman girl asking you to walk her home at night to "be a gentleman" (hint: most "good girls" arrange safe travel beforehand so that they aren't at the mercy of a stranger who is twice their size). I could tell you a thousand different counters to these tricks, but then someone would come up with trick number 1001 and you'd be screwed. Literally. So instead, I'll tell you some general tactics that will help you in every situation.
1) Submit yourself to Christ. This will give you the resolve to protect your V-card no matter what, so make this Plan A-Z.
2) Safety in numbers. Players and playeresses are like the predators on the Discovery Channel. They tend to prey on those whom they perceive as weak, and to these people, alone=weak. So be strong and humble enough to travel in a herd.
3) Get out of the shark tank! Don't hang out at nightclubs, bars, frat parties, or other places where these people hang out unless you want your virginity to be devoured like a "Jaws" victim. Oh, and, while we're at it, STOP GETTING DRUNK AROUND THE OPPOSITE SEX!
4) Be suspicious of "overqualified candidates." For example, if the star quarterback of your school's football team takes an interest in you, and you're the president of the chess club, it's unlikely that he is interested in learning any openings that don't involve you spreading your legs. Likewise, if you are a young man doing online work at a coffee shop and a gorgeous, mature former model tells you that she has observed "how hard you work", she may want to figure out what else is as hard as your work ethic (especially if she is having marital troubles). Remember, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.
5) Worse case scenario, if they do get you alone and you figure out what their true intentions are, RUN! If you're a girl and the guy gets violent, fight until you can escape. You're better off getting away with a bloody nose and black eye than letting a date rapist turn your internal organs into shredded beef and permanently sabotage your emotional and mental health.
If you're a guy, and a girl tries to corner you, RUN FASTER! Because if you two are alone and you reject her advances, she may get pissed off and claim that you tried to take advantage of her. And due to today's social climate, whatever the girl says happened, happened. Ditch the nympho before she gets you alone and keep your reputation intact. It's much easier than having your name dragged through the mud as you battle a bogus rape charge in court and fight off the advances of your cellmate, Big Bubba.
2 Timothy 2:22 "Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." (NIV)
