I have met many girls who were "sexually swindled" by players who manipulated these young ladies by convincing them that they loved them. In reality, these men only loved their vajayjay and dumped them as soon as they got what they wanted. On top of that, there is a rising population of playeresses who bleed guys dry as human credit cards with sexual reward points. Then, like their male counterparts, these women cast these young men aside without remorse. Many people of my generation are bitter and disillusioned as a result, which has caused them to become addicted to forbidden sexual acts. Even worse, many of these acts, in addition to self-medication for the pain that they feel, are perverse ways to try to "get even" with the men and women who used them.
"Look at what you are making me do to myself!" These victims scream through their actions, believing that somehow the player/playeress will find out and feel so guilty that they throw themselves headfirst into the Lake of Fire.
In non-sexual areas of my life, I've played this "martyr game" myself, subconsciously believing that the dirtbag who screwed me over would somehow find out and condemn themselves to a life of self-loathing for what they did. Unfortunately, this is what actually happened:
1) The dirtbag found me
2) The dirtbag screwed me
3) The dirtbag forgot me
4) The dirtbag screwed somebody else over
Look, if some player/playeress used and dumped you, you have every right to hate their guts. Unfortunately, exercising that particular right will just waste your time because this is how these kind of people operate:
1) The player/playeress screws you
2) The player/playeress dumps you
3) The player/playeress forgets you
4) The player/playeress does the same thing to somebody else
So while you're throwing your chances of experiencing "The Sexual Force Unleashed" and "Romantic World Peace" through a plate-glass window, these scumbags are going along their merry scumbag way, leaving more relational carnage in their wake. They have no remorse for what they did to you and aren't concerned about how badly they hurt you. They're too busy screwing other people over to care.
So what do you do if a player/playeress has turned you out and made you feel (and look) stupid?
1) Turn your entire life, including that past situation, over to Christ. This is the only way to truly experience freedom and healing.
2) Forgive the player/playeress for using you so that bitterness does not enslave you to a life of forbidden sexual acts.
3) Repent for the forbidden sexual acts that you committed with that player/playeress. Even though they lied/cheated/manipulated/bribed you, etc., it's important to remember that, if you consented, you are just as responsible for the loss of your V-card as they are.
4) If necessary, seek legal action for child support payments, to get custody of your kids if that person is strung out on drugs, etc.
5) Commit your sexuality to Jesus so that He can transform you into a resurrected virgin and allow you to experience "The Sexual Force Unleashed" and "Romantic World Peace" within a Christ-centered marriage!
Matthew 6:12-13, "Give us today our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one." (NIV)
