The good news is that if you avoid players/playeresses and stay in peer groups who are dedicated to Christ's standard of purity, you are well on the way to experiencing "The Sexual Force Unleashed" and "Romantic World Peace" within marriage. The bad news is that horndogs, nymphos, and perverted friends are amateur-level fighters. After you get some wins in the cage, God will test you against the pros: the world (which would be like Bellator-level competition), the demonic kingdom (which would be like UFC-level competition), and worst of all, your archnemesis (who is your reigning undisputed divisional champion. Hint: they aren't Satan). But the best news is that if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Savior, He will give you the heart, training and skills necessary to become a Marital MMA champion with your spouse. That being said, you still need to know what you are up against, so here is an overview of the professional "B-league" of sexual temptation: the world.
No matter where you live, forbidden sexual influences will try to gain illegal entry into the "nation" of your mind to wreak havoc. The most common entry point they will use is the internet, where deranged people will even upload porn to Youtube and "romantic e-books" (a.k.a. porn for women) on Amazon. Other access points forbidden sexual influences will use to gain entry include television, music, books, and video games. There's no way to escape this. I once lived on an extremely conservative island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean and within a few weeks of my arrival, they got high-speed internet. So in order to keep forbidden sexual thoughts from "illegally immigrating" into your brain, you must set up a Christ-centered border patrol. To do this, you must:
1) Submit your entire life to Christ, in particular your mind. The other measures that you use will only work if you take this important first step.
2) Secure your borders. Put accountability software and filters on your smartphone, computer, tablet, and television. If you already have a severe addiction, get rid of these devices until you have been sober for at least six months. You can talk just as easily on a flip phone as you can on an Iphone (although texting will be a pain in the rear).
When you go out to movies, concerts, etc. don't watch or listen to anything you wouldn't want your future son or daughter to be exposed to. If anything causes you to sin, regardless of how harmless it seems, DEPORT IT!
Don't, however, go overboard and become legalistic (i.e. telling someone else how badly they will burn in hell for reading "Harry Potter" on their Kindle). Remember, your goal is to lead people to Christ, not to declare "church jihad" on everybody who doesn't follow your personal traditions (which may not necessarily be biblical).
3) Encourage "legal immigration" into your mind by flooding it with music, movies, books, etc. which are consistent with Christ's standard of holiness. And remember, holiness is NOT a synonym for "totally lame"! Search until you find godly entertainment which is also ENJOYABLE!
4) If you have the talent, create God-honoring music, Youtube shows, novels, and other holy media to lead others to Christ. If you don't have the talent, provide encouragement to those that do through buying their MP3s, e-books, etc.
5) Use the Bible as your standard for what you should watch and listen to. Our own personal convictions are too easily twisted by influences such as how hot the actress/actor is or how funny the viral video is. So stick to the only unchangeable standard that we have: God's Word. Oh, and don't use one of the politically correct, self-help ones which are coming out now (which I have nicknamed the New Bullcrap Translations). Make sure that you have a legit translation (such as the New International Version, King James Version, or New American Standard Version).
Philippians 4:8, "Finally, brothers and
sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,
whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything
is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." (NIV)
